New Month• New Series• New Goals
You did it! If you're reading this, you have officially made through your first week of November! Whether your seeing fall leves or palm trees like us in LA, we are grateful to have you back with us if you are returning; and if you're new to our blog, welcome!
Queens and Kings, we are are so excited to have you back for another series we are calling "Giving Gratitude: What We've Learned from Pressing Past Pain."
Sounds like a cute title, and a great idea...but can you see it through? Is it even tangible or practical given the circumstances?
We completely understand is not always easy but it is worth every attempt to live life freely...and this week Co founder Cristal Lowe will talk more on her experience and we invite you to grow in yours!
"There were countless times in my own experience when it was easy to imagine living life in what I thought was perfect with no pain, no worries, and free from fear after I was raped. I'd be "normal" I wouldn't have as many emotional issues to unpack...I could just be. But that pain was too real to ignore and popped my little imaginary bubble of perfection and a painless world. When I finally decided to speak out in regards to my testimony, I was set free and began a healing I never thought would be possible.
I have learned to stop running from the unknown to take chances and leave my pain behind. Once doing so, I regained a new idealmin living. I knew this world wasn't
Perfect but I focused on my
Purpose to help me to press past the pain by giving thanks. Even through my struggles of finding a "new normal" after this experience; I've learned the power of gratitude.
To this day, years after my experience of sexual assault, I exaggerate my Thank you's to minimize my complaints. I will never forget that night, and I drop to my knees daily to thank God for bringing me out of darkness into light.
Although I might cry out its not of pain but instead of joy and thankfulness that God has healed something so broken as me and showed up!
I'm thankful that God kept me. I thank God that he allowed me to look beyond pain and darkness, I'm so thankful that although my days looked hazy and full of rain somehow God showed me light even if it was far and seemed like I would never get there. I thank God that God never gave up on me I thank God that I'm here and not 7 feet deep.
I am THANKFUL!"
So wherever you are in this process of healing from loss, physical, mental, or emotional abuse, assault, or pain that overwhelms your everyday being...we are here. We hear you. We know somedays are easier to bare than others but you dump that burden here, dust off your hands of that baggage, you can find solace in raising the arms that you've emptied of such a burden and find strength to praise a God who STILL cares.
How? How do you expect me someone who was wrongfully treated, who didn't deserve that person to take advantage of me...who destroyed my dreams, and outlook on life because not I can't trust anyone let alone myself? HOW do you expect to praise a God who allowed THIS PAIN to enter my life??
We may not have He perfect anwser. But we've walked those shoes before, we've learned much from our experiences that gratitude trumps a bad day or experience because the root of gratitude is in love and thanksgiving for being present regardless of circumstances at had or that have past.
Yes, this takes practice, yes, this takes work. So regardless of the week or month or year...give gratitude for what you DO have control over! Have you thanked yourself for even giving yourself the chance to start over? There's always a beginning to ever new chapter in your life...it's just a matter of how you wish to start--we encourage you to begin in gratitude. And for the remainder of this month we'll continue to guide you along the way....
Without love and solidarity
Cristal Lowe and Devin Marie
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