We encourage you to not forget giving yourself so much of what you already give to the world. (Even if sometimes these remnants of the self-love you’ve been able to muster up after trauma or disappointment doesn’t feel like ‘enough’.)
This month is maybe nearing its end, but the healing doesn’t...so take what you have from this series and know we will revisit topics like these very soon! For our readers in sunny SoCal, the summer heat is only get hotter, so enjoy the cool breezes as they come whilst enjoying this encouraging word! (Perhaps a pressed juice or lavender lemonade on side for extra Queen/King- like feels) to embrace your now...where ever that may be for you!
This is for the healers out there in the world. The ones who put on a brave face and deal with day-to-day life whilst coping with loss. This is for the mothers, and fathers who are doing their best to not continue generational curses in their own families by healing from their own. This is for the scholars, the Queens and Kings who want more for their life than just heartbreak.. this is for those who are learning to trust others and more importantly, themselves again. Anyone who has experienced pain, or who is hurting from their past trauma as we heal daily whether from distrust or something as life-altering as rape and sexual assault; we must all be patient in knowing this is a PROCESS!
As much as we might like to hasten our healing process, there are steps we must take within us to get to the other side of this. As difficult as it is to consider; our truth here st Herstory is that much of our healing was birthed from a place of forgiveness. Yup, we know what you must be thinking.
It’s nearly impossible for others to believe that Devin and myself have forgiven the men who took advantage of our friendship, drugged, then raped us...because of the work God has done in us we can faithfully say that we have. We have seen the miraculous changes God has done in us by softening our hearts, and opening our minds to begin the process of undoing the negative seeds that were deposited in our lives from that traumatic moment.
Matthew 5:44: But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.
As we healing for ourselves, we encourage you to be mindful of your thought-life towards those who afflict us. We must pray for those that hurt us no matter how big or small the offense. Naturally, we might not feel like it and 100% feel like they don't deserve our forgiveness. However, we’ve learned (and are still learning) that God operates different from our ‘feelings’.
Although, they don’t deserve your forgiveness; what if God told you that your freedom depended on it...or your happiness, your joy, your marriage, your career, you dream and purpose? Always know that GOD does not intend for you to hurt, nor was it His plan for you to suffer. He sent His done Christ Jesus to take up that suffering and pain for us...and as crazy as it is to wrap our minds around it (that WAS God’s plan).
It is also God’s plan to bring you out of that hurt, and into a place of healing to allow your light to shine in order for someone else to heal and know they can be healed too. Your healing is as much your own, as it is the people that surround you with love now, and the ones waiting to love and support you in the future.
In due season your blessing will come forward full circle! You will be blessed and highly favored. You will be the head and not the tail! Live unapologetically in your healing do what is necessary NOW, so you don’t have to keep picking up the broken pieces in the future. Know that you are here for a reason and if you need a reminder of how blessed you are, put your right hand over your heart and feel the drum of your own heart beat—that is life; that is purpose. Smile on today, because someone is watching you and depending on your walk towards healing!
With love and solidarity,
Cristal Lowe & Devin Marie
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