It’s morning... and yes, you can bet I have my water boiling on the stove top, and I’m currently chugging down my @essentia water bottle to get my first liter in of the day. 💦 Did I mention it’s 4am?!
Okay...so most mornings I don’t wake up THIS early. But I do wake up early enough to give myself the time I need...
Sooooo what does self-care look like on my busiest of days?
I mean, do you really have time for this stuff? My anwser;
No. No we don’t have time for this stuff.
We make time for this stuff.
This week I wanted to touch on INTENTIONAL Self-Care and how anyone and I mean anyone can do it—whether you’re a mom juggling 3 kids on your own, a rape survivor like myself who got all the counseling and therapy she needed, but never heard anyone say “take some ‘me’ time.” Or a college student stretching out last week’s @postmates order as “meal-prep” (I’ve been there😅), this is for you. For the humans in all of us that need to reset daily to survive in this world. I hope this puts things in perspective.
Do you ever ask yourself, “Who am I doing this all for?” Like before you commute to work, are you Ike “I’m literally taking on a double-shift for me because I LOVE this place.”😅🤪
Or does the student who is sitting in front of her/his laptop after 4 hours writing their term paper, ask “who is this assignment for??”
Or better yet, what is my purpose in doing ______??
We hardly ever ask these questions in our daily lives or activities. In most cases, we settle into the routine of things just to survive. The only problem with settling for anything is that when life disrupts us, we are hardly grounded because our foundation has yet to be set on I n t e n t i o n.
That intention can be big or small. But what if we added purpose behind that intention daily?
This is where self-care became important to me. I knew WHY I was doing something for a change, not because I wanted a degree from all of my studies, or a promotion from my employer, but because I was giving myself purpose.
This is a purpose that God has always placed inside of me that I had yet to actively discover and practice daily. So how do I know my purpose, or find my purpose?
I personally spent time alone with God. I minimized my time being influenced by outside influences (music, certain foods, people). I fast and I pray intentionally for a designated amount of time.
My mornings and evenings are very much like this! They are becoming more and more spiritual experiences for me. I am appreciative of my tea-time and scripture reading even if that means waking up and hour or 20min. earlier to fully take in that moment.
These moments are essential to me. I wish I had started sooner, especially in my earlier years of healing post- sexual assault. Healing is equally a vulnerable time, and also a freeing time—when we heal from any trauma, we are suspectable to infection, if we are exposed to the wrong thing. Consider this, a physical wound needs intentional and regular cleaning after an accident; as does your heart, and your soul from the emotional trauma that proceeds from negative experiences.
Self-care has been the cleaning in my life I know my mind, body, and soul needs in order to coexist with every other part of my being.
My prayer is that you intentionally participate in adding self-care in your life. Start small, every intention counts. Even if you add 1 hour a week or 5 minutes a day to unplug from your other intentions (work, school, family, relationships, etc.) and go outside, stretch to your favorite song, make some tea, write in your journal, meditate on God’s word, pray, go for a run, out on a face mask, put your phone on do not disturb, cook your favorite meal...whatever it is, be kind to you...and trust me, you’ll thank yourself for it later 🙏🏽💗
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.