As we close this series for the month of August, Cristal and I would like to thank the men in our lives who bravely shared their experiences of manhood in relation to rape culture. We wanted to leave you with these lasting thoughts for you to reflect on as we continue to move forward with laws and initiatives around human conduct in the work place and beyond. We must heal--together. We can no longer let "boys be boys" if we expect them to become men. I mean REAL MEN, the type of men that not only see women in compromising situations, but DO something about it.
We must equip our young kings with the knowledge that their privilege comes at a price; that it is something that can be used for good in order to equalize the relationship between genders. When we speak about sexual assault, rape, and domestic violence, we understand that these grievances in society are deeply written in the fabric of our history. This is going to take a lot of undoing and reconditioning of what TRUE standards are for both men and women. As survivors of sexual assault, we are empathetic towards the reality that these things take time.
We will continuously revisit this subject on what masculinity means today, and how its fragile facade is not only harmful for women but men who are expected to adhere to compromising and limiting ideals of manhood. Our focus here at Herstory is ALWAYS on healing; but that must also expand beyond the ones that are hurt. This conversation must also include the ones that are doing the hurting.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.