Topic this Week is on Forgiveness. We all know Of It...but are we ACTIVELY forgiving? And what does It actually mean to do so?
Regardless Of The matter; Big or small...without Forgiveness we remain stuck;
Stuck in that moment, stuck in that feeling, stuck in The grip Of that experience or what that person caused. I'm not saying this process is easy, but it is necessaryto Live life Fully!
Pain hurts. Whether that pain is being experienced physically, mentally, or emotionally. The pain May actually last Past The moment Of intital trauma. Imagine stubbing your pinky toe on the corner Of your bed. You can walk away from that corner, you can even walk out Of that Room; but your toe More than likely Will continue to throb And ache. What am I getting at?
A LOT Of us are willing to go Back to that corner, yell, maybe damage the bed all together in hopes Of avenging ourselves or getting Back at that "thing".
Cristal Lowe: "Forgiving someone else to have self peace and be able to truly love your self to start a healing process."
Devin Marie: "I have had to forgive sometimes every day after the pain of sexual assault. I had to come to terms with the pain, why it hurt me, and ultimately how is this hurt going to control my life? There were many steps I took to get to the place where I can say I have forgiven him. The individual who assaulted me. Does forgiving him mean What he did wasn't wrong? No. It means that what he did wasn't going to dictate how I treated myself or others as I move on in my life."
And that's the thing, I don't know if I was ready to move on from what happened. For the first few years I had attached so much of myself to him, to that night, to everything associated with the rape; that I lost who I was." My identity was directly affiliated with my pain. I was afraid that if I let go of that pain, I would be letting go of me too." --DM
I mirrored WHO I was with WHAT happened to me. I didn't see myself as beautiful, I didn't love myself, I thought myself to be weak. But God reminded me there is a difference between BEING weak and living weak-minded. I thought, if I can conquer that...I can finally move on.
To be weak minded means to harbor thoughts that promote weak behavior.
I was done self-sabtagoing Everything Gold because I feared It would eventually hurt me.
When a negativa thought about myself, that person, that moment accord i inmediately said to myself, "i know that hurt you, this was not your fault, you are here NOW. I forgive you, because I Love me More!"
These affirmations though small eventually became a reality; even if it took me a while to believe I forgave; I reminded myself it wasn't for them, it was for me, and I deserved to live a full life without the shackles of resentment, because that's what they are... A way to restrict movement to love myself, and be loved in return.--DM
So forgive and in return love fully! Not for them, not because what they did doesn't matter, not because it will take WHAT they did away, but because your worth it! You are worth the chance.
Let's heal together.
Cristal Lowe and Devin Marie
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